On Monday Lena Dunham was honored by the Point Foundation in New York for her advocacy in LGBTQ issues. The Point Foundation is a scholarship fund that helps LGBTQ students, who have trouble finishing their education, to actually empower them in their academic dreams. Their work is admirable. At a time where this country prides itself to be so advanced in Human Rights issues compared to other countries, there are still enough people here in the United States who would like to push all sexual minorities back in any available closet.
For those of you who may not know who Lena Dunham is: First, shame on you. Second, she best known for creating, staring in, directing and writing the HBO show “Girls”. Personally, I have seen all three seasons. I am still on the fence though whether I like this show or not. The four main characters, in my opinion, are too pretentious in the way they speak and behave. Apparently this show is just showing the “normal” life of twentysomethings in New York City, who are trying to find their paths. For me it is like watching a completely different species. My mind is sometimes baffled when I see them react to situations, or how they treat each other.
Nonetheless, “Girls” is definitely refreshing. I call it sometimes “Sex and the City – The poor version”. And even though I don’t really enjoy the execution, the core beliefs, values and thoughts it is trying to deliver are in fact at the heart of every mid-twenties person – I am no exception to that.
When Lena Dunham was presented her award, she said among many other things also this:
Now, obviously Ms. Dunham embraces the LGBTQ community immensely, not just because, but she has closer ties to it through her sister. I applaud her parents and her for their open-mindedness and their unconditional acceptance of the homosexual community. There have to be more people like her family in the world. Nonetheless, her statement about being disappointed not to have turned out a lesbian raised my eyebrows just a tiny bit. I might come off ignorant because I only have second-hand knowledge of the movement and fight for equal treatment. But as far as I understood this whole time, the LGBTQ community never wanted to be put on a pedestal. They might have been put there with a bunch of ugly stereotypes by unknowing freaks. But the fight is for equality – not to be celebrated as a marginalized group.
Isn’t the intention this whole time to just become part of the norm? That people don’t gasp and run into walls when they see a homosexual couple holding hands? That a show like “Looking” doesn’t get backlash for being not gay enough because they are not fulfilling the gay stereotype? That when you hear that someone is part of the LGBTQ community, you don’t instantly look for the parade and the glitter – possibly a marching band?
And by that I mean that the inclusion of all sexual minorities should be aspired, and not have people be “disappointed” that they can’t join an outside party. Even though she means well, this I believe, she manages, in my opinion, to make sure that there is strict distinction between two things, where there shouldn’t be any. Neither one is worse or better. Equal. Or, “Love is love.” With increasing research in this issue we find that there is a much higher fluidity when it comes to gender and sexual identity. There are no “teams”. It is just a big ole mess, and trying to find your place in it can be hard and difficult.
Somehow, Ms. Dunham glorifies being gay because of some misconstrued image in her head. Granted I can only imagine myself, but I never assumed that one’s sexual orientation can impact a life so entirely that it changes everything. What I am trying to say by this, is that the identity of a person is not just made up of straight or gay. There are so many other aspects that make a person who they are (family, passions, hobbies, friends, job, education, values, morals, etc.).
Reading out loud to myself what I have just wrote, I realize that you can either go away from this post saying that I have no clue, or hopefully get the my message somehow in between the lines, that whatever one might turn out to be (gay, straight, lesbian, asexual, demisexual, pansexual, transgender, etc.), it is all good.
As our society progresses, so does the acceptance. And I believe that it is only a matter of time. As of now, it baffles me why people get so heatedly involved in issues that have nothing to with them and would yet deny others simple rights. The little kid in me just wants to scream, “Can’t we all just get along?” I am not going to judge you on who you love or don’t love. I am going to judge you on whether or not you are a nice person. I wish everybody would just follow step and let just people be who they want to be. That being said, in light of recent legislative injustices (or trials of) towards the LGBTQ community, I know that it is necessary for progress to speak out on these issues and highlight what is going wrong.
As for Ms. Dunham, she said what she said. Then I wrote something, and world keeps on turning.